Thursday, July 18, 2013

What my Husband CAN'T do..

I was reading one of my favorite blogs the other day. 
Everything she said in this post resonated with me. 
I had been wondering for days what to write down. What to share with you all. 
& then it was right in front of me. 
My husband cannot fulfill my deepest needs. 
He cannot be my everything.
He simply cannot.
I often find myself putting this unfair expectation on my husband to somehow "complete me."
That's what movies teach us real love is, right?

 After all, according to the world's standards, if we don't have that sort of fairy tale, ooey-gooey feeling all of the time, there must be something wrong and therefore we should then act according to the "what is best for me" scenario.
There are often times I fall far into this trap. Times when anything he does will determine how I feel. I begin to rely solely on what he can do for me instead of what God has already done.
Without a doubt, because he is human, he will eventually fail to meet my deepest needs, which leaves me feeling unfulfilled, insecure, and broken.
Who's fault is that? Certainly not my husbands.

It's easy to rely fully on him. He truly is an amazing man. He loves Jesus in an intense way. A way I can personally say I have never seen another do.
He strives to always treat me with respect and shower me with deep love and affection.
He hopes for me, dreams with me, counsels me, prays with me.
He is the one I have waited all of my life for.
But he cannot be my god.
He cannot fill that role.
He will not always be there for me in the way I would like him to be.
He cannot give me the peace that surpasses all understanding.
He cannot relate to every hurt, sin, and deep need I have.
He cannot give me purpose or self worth. 
What he can do is lead me to the One who can and will not only fulfill but exceed my greatest expectation.
You see, the thing about Jesus, is you can never expect too much of Him.
He is fully God.
He knows you deeply.
He weeps with you, relates to you, celebrates with you and loves you in a way no one person ever can.
He made you and I so He is the only One capable of fulfilling us. 

 Friends, I know how easy it is to allow your husband to become your (little g) god.
I know how easy it is when you feel intense love for him.
When he is the man you longed for your whole life.
I catch myself doing this far more than I would like to admit.
I cling tightly to him with fear of ever loosing him.
Which only leaves me disappointed and dependent on him in a way I should only be in the Lord.
Maybe this is something you relate to?
Either way I just want to be an encouragment.
There are many things in this life that will promise fulfillment but there is only One who can come through on that promise.
My God will meet all your needs according to the riches of His glory in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19 (emphasis added)


  1. Such a great post! I hope you will join us for the Marriage Goals Link-up Series starting in August. This would be a wonderful post for so many wives to read! :)


  2. I, too, fall victim to expecting too much from my husband. Thank you so much for this wonderful reminder, Jess! :)

    Beautiful pictures of such a beautiful couple!


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